Haredism in a Nutshell

Everything important in life I learned about in yeshiva – not:

… As soon as the light changed, the car cut me off from the right.  I looked over as it passed and saw a distinctive large beard and black hat, front brim turned down.  Apparently, this frum yid, less than two weeks after apologizing for all wrongs committed during the previous year, felt it was okay to behave in a way that was rude and potentially dangerous. 

But he wasn’t done.  Up ahead, the road widened to two lanes.  The other car pulled into the right lane and I stayed in the left, preparing to turn at the intersection.  But my black-hatted friend suddenly decided that he needed to be in the left lane.  How suddenly? Well, there was no time to signal- heck, there wasn’t even time to make sure there wasn’t another car (mine) in the space he wanted.  Yes, he nearly forced me into oncoming traffic and completely ignored me laying on the horn.  Probably a tsnius issue.  And after all that, did he even turn at the light?  Nope.  He kept going straight– while straddling the white dotted line, taking up both lanes.

I suspect he thought I was just some shiksa who he’d never see again.  But I know what kind of hat he wears.  I know what kind of car he drives.  I know people in his community.  It shouldn’t be too hard to find him next year.  And then I can remind him, while he’s busy offering up vague apologies in order to secure his place in Haolam Habaah, of the Jewish mother and wife he could have caused serious harm to, not even two weeks after the previous Yom Kippur.

Now, of course I don’t believe that this kind of behavior is reflective of all who wear black hats. But I do believe that when one chooses to publicly identify themselves as a member of a group that is grounded in Torah, they must behave in a way that shows that they take Torah seriously.…

Amazing what our rabbinic brothers don’t teach in their yeshivot. Of course, God forbid you eat the wrong cheese or tie your shoes out of order …



Filed under Chabad Theology, Haredim

11 responses to “Haredism in a Nutshell

  1. Nigritude Ultramarine

    Oh, you’re just painting all charedim with a broad brush….

    I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to say that. I think someone must have put chareidishe Kool-Aid in my glass.

  2. Even just as a kippah wearer I’m often modifying my behavior for the better because of how it would look for an identifiable Jew to be behaving in some bad way or other. So it can work the way it is supposed to.

  3. Tam

    Maybe he’s just a bad driver?

  4. James

    While my experience with the orthodox has no been very good, had the post been written by a gentile you’d screem bloody murder.Lets steer away from generalizing.
    Btw, I hate the word ‘hareidim’ as far as I see there is no difference between ‘hareidim’ ‘Modern orthodox’ etc..

  5. Neo-Conservaguy

    She wasn’t generalizing. She could have: this is only one of many such stories involving different members of this group. But, she wasn’t; rather, the focus is on the real world behavior in one’s interaction with other people, behavior that is most certainly discussed and legislated by our sacred texts and sages. Simply put, as Jews, we’re supposed to know – and do – better, particularly with regard to life-threatening safety issues.

    I too, have found wearing my kippa in public – something I don’t always do – has many times “forced” my attention on better interaction as a driver. I wouldn’t want a non-Jew to think poorly of all Jews on the basis of my bad driving.

  6. dovid

    “APPARENTLY felt it was o.k.”
    “PROBABLY a tznius issue”
    “I SUSPECT he thought i was a shiksa”
    “god forbid you ate the wrong cheese”

    just how many of such ‘suppositions’ does it take to make a rabid anti-semite?

  7. Neo-Conservaguy

    Just one: the opinion offered by you that someone who makes those statements is one. Then again, the point you’ve missed is that such poor and dangerous behavior in public is exactly what can inspire anti-semitic thoughts among non-Jews. Don’t try to kill the messenger just because you don’t care for the news.

  8. j

    It’s been interesting to read the comments here. I can’t say that I’m surprised to have been called an anti-Semite (and a rabid one, at that!), but I’m disappointed, nonetheless.

    Around Yom Kippur, I posted the following observation:

    “Last year on our walk to shul, my husband pointed out how weird it was that on our holiest, most solemn day, the day when we believe the entire world is judged, everyody else goes about their business as though it was just another day.

    In the back of my mind, the cynical side of me thought, ‘while to many of us it’s just another Yom Kippur.'”

    Dovid- I suppose you’d already formed your opinion of my driving observations even before you finished reading the paragraphs. You picked out the catch words that “proved” your point and ignored my actual message. You just didn’t get it. And then you went and blurted out a venomous response to another message that wasn’t even there- except in your imagination. Were the al cheits that long ago that we don’t even remember? Thanks for providing another example of my point.

    Tam- being a bad driver is not an excuse. No one should be a bad driver. Bad drivers kill and injure innocent people every day. They should be bus riders instead.

  9. Steven

    “Amazing what our rabbinic brothers don’t teach in their yeshivot. Of course, God forbid you eat the wrong cheese or tie your shoes out of order …”

    Yes, you are so right. So many of these so-called “religious” are nothing but ritualist hypocrites. They won’t miss one syllable of their pre-scrpited prayers, but they have no ounce of conscience when it comes to Derekh Eretz.

  10. Ya Ethiopia Lij

    Amharic/ Hebrew/ English

    Abba/Imma/ Aba/Ima/ Father/Mother
    Ledet/ Ledet/ Birth
    Tsedik/ Tzedek/ Holy
    Mot/ Met/ Death
    Bewnet?/ Bemet?/ Really?
    Ba/La/ Ba/La/ In,wit/to,.
    Melak/ Melech/ King
    Tesfah/ Tikvah/ Hope
    Barkot/ Bracha/ Blessing
    Sanbat/ Shabbat/ Shabaths
    Orit/ Torah/ OldTestamet
    Knfe/ Knaf/ Wing
    Kabad/ Kavod/ Heavy
    Haiwot/ Chaim Life
    Kados/ Kadosh/ Kadish
    Mazen/ Magen/
    …..The list goes on, and on , and on, and on…..

    Ethiopian Jewish names that are original Amharic/Geez names (Ethiopian Orthodoxis also frequently use these names). –Note that this has nothing to do with Askhenazi contacts. And please note that there are no Arabic infulence as well. They are original and pure Semetic names:

    Males:- Adam,Tsedik,Mazor,Tsedekah,Agazi,Binyam,Nahom,Noah,Merdokai,Natnael,Tesfaw,Ezra,Abraham,Yosefi,Haggos,Haggai,Yohannan,Yossias,Annaiah,Brook, etc. etc..
    Femaels:- Feven, Margalit,Yehudit,Sanait,Tirsit,Misrak,Helen,Meron,Leat,Leah,Deborah,Aish,Tamar,Sara,Mariam,Sosanah,Elsabeth, etc….

    If the Ethiopian Jews are not desent semetic people, then who is?

  11. David Bar-Magen

    Um, probably the reason people are painting you as an anti-Semite is because of the title: Haredism in a Nutshell.

    Even a “nutshell” should include a bit more than bad driving.

    We learn in elementary school that the content of an essay usually follows the title, and the content here was excessively negative. Hence the comments.

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