Okay. So two Orthodox women bring 12 children, including some as young as 2 years old, to a glatt kosher Chinese restaurant for lunch. They’re disruptive. When the bill comes the women object to the 18% tip added by the restaurant – something alleged to be standard for large parties. There is no notice of this policy on the menu, and the women ask that the bill be split between them so the size of each party falls below the large party limit. This would allow them to leave a smaller tip. The restaurant refuses and an argument ensues. The upshot? The women file a criminal complaint against the waiter, alleging discrimination because the women are Jewish. (Remember, this is a glatt kosher restaurant where most – if not all – of the clientele are Orthodox Jews.)
I owned a kosher food service business. My customer base was made up of about 80% Conservative Jews and 20% Orthodox. Of the Orthodox, most were haredi, and about 70% of them were BTs. My worst customers, the ones who were the most obnoxious, who asked for the most (often illegal) "favors" (a favorite was cheating on their WIC accounts, which I refused to do), the ones who demanded the most and shopped the least, were all haredim who were not BTs.
Over the years I’ve spoken with many people in the Jewish food service business. All have the same basic complaints about their customers. All noted that the more "frum" a customer is, the more likely that customer will be trouble. I’ve seen this played out in restaurants and meat markets in several states and in Jerusalem, as well.
Why is this misbehavior so common? I have my thoughts, but I’d like to hear yours.